Are All Men Pedophiles? (2013)

Truly Dreadful Film

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Uncertain what defines a review as being a spoiler so went ahead and checked the box. My first reaction from watching this documentary or informational movie was simply upset and disappointment. I couldn't understand how the documentary explained the title, and in watching it I figured it would have more of a specific focus. After being given a moment to think about the documentary, I think it is a good start for bringing attention to horrible things that happen to children and adolescents without making it something just for entertainment purposes. It also brings about how men may unfairly be treated in this society. I may not agree with some parts of it, however, it's a good start for change.

I watched this film and it provides a premise of pedophilia as a sexuality rather than an illness. It wants acceptance in mainstream society of pedophilia, rather than intense medical treatment.Let's get this straight - some true facts about this issue; 1.Paedophiles are those interested in prepubescent children 2. Child Molesters are those interested in pubescent children. Both of these categories are composed entirely of under age children, not capable of consenting to any type of sexual relationship.Paedophiles have a choice to act out their sexual perversions on children, or to not act out. This film wants people to 'open their minds' to the fact that pedophilia was happening back in ancient Greek times and not considered odd or wrong, so why is it now? {In ancient Greek times, older men would have a relationship with younger men in the form of a mentor-ship. This mentor relationship often had sexual activity involved. To the ancient Greeks, prepubescent boys were off limits}I would like to address this - Humans evolve over time and we now know, without a shadow of a doubt, pedophilia damages children. It damages children, families, communities and society as a whole. It ruins lives - abilities to have relationships with self and others, intimate relationships with friends, partners and children.While I do not dispute the rarest possibility of non-active pedophiles, who do not act out, I have no doubts about the abhorrence of child rape perpetrated by active pedophiles.The film talks about shame caused by societies views of pedophiles. It IS a shameful act. Raping children is shameful full stop. A pedophile who is not raping a child, yet uses media (photos, video, Internet) to observe young children in sexual acts - or indeed sits around parks/schools where young children congregate in order to gain some stimulation for private sexual gratification - is, actually, an active pedophile who is acting out. Children are entitled to be free from sexual objectification. A pedophile sitting on a bench in a park, as one does in this film, watching children walking by in uniforms and such, stating he does not 'act out' on his feelings, is being untruthful. As said above, deliberately sitting in a public place, at times when children are particularly known to be present, (or a children's park/playground etc) IS 'acting out'.This film reminds me of the group NAMBLA (North American Man/Boy Association) which promotes pedophilia, lowering of age limits and believes children have an ability to make decisions appropriately regarding older adults sexually penetrating them.It is now common knowledge that the human brain does not fully develop it's fear and cognitive abilities until around the age of 25 years old.No child is able to determine and decide for themselves, to have a sexual relationship with an adult.This film, in my opinion is nothing short of trying to normalize pedophilia and make it acceptable in society. Trying to liken it to homosexuality and not the heinous crime it actually is. Paedophilia is an illness, whether a person acts on it or not and needs to be treated as such. There may be some people who watch this and fall for the bull%^&t contained within - no matter how you dress it up, pedophilia is still child rape and abuse. This includes the support, exchange and creation of child pornography, sexual objectification of minors while they are carrying on their normal days and anything else which violates their sovereign selves.I completely give this film a 20,000 thumbs down.I am an informed person regarding pedophilia and I find films such as these quite frightening, as they have the power to influence the minds of those not so informed and those vulnerable to manipulation.If by chance any children read these reviews - If someone older than you is asking you to do things that involve your private areas or their private areas, please tell someone- these people are sick and very dangerous. Tell someone you feel safe with. Tell your parents, or a policeman or policewoman, or a teacher at your school, or your doctor. No matter what, keep telling people what is going on until someone helps you. It is NOT your fault. You are NOT bad. You did NOTHING wrong. You do NOT deserve to be hurt. You DO deserve to be listened to and believed. You ARE important. You DO matter. *hug*Addendum Feb 2017: The clarification of differences between pedophiles and child molesters can be extremely confusing. Please visit the California Coalition Against Sexual Assault. This site has links to information regarding these topics and definitions. Another site, with clinical study results is the Child Molestation Prevention .org website.

This film attempts to make excuses for pedophiles and tries to justify the illness by claiming it's "instinctive". Incredibly heteronormative, especially in the end when there's a whole montage about love not seeing age, race, etc but makes no mention of other genders. The reason I watched this is because the title card has a picture of a girl in Lolita fashion. For anyone who doesn't know what that is, or has just thought of the book of the same name: Lolita fashion is a Japanese street fashion inspired by the frilly and feminine styles of the Victorian and Rococo eras. The main focus of the style is a careful coordination of elegance and cuteness. Although it can appear as somewhat childish, it is not about the infantilization of woman nor is it even remotely done for men's approval. The representation of Lolita is short in the film, but it's very clear that the creators DID NOT do their research on the fashion. In conclusion, this film is lazy, gross, and creepy. It's obvious that the creators couldn't be bothered to do much research and as a result they really miss out on a chance to tell the important story.

I have rarely, if ever, watched a documentary that made me as angry as "Are All Men Pedophiles?". While it sometimes asks very interesting questions, it also seems to have an agenda…and a seriously disturbed one at that. Now I can be open-minded about other opinions, but sometimes being THAT open-minded is really, really stupid…and I strongly suspect most viewers also won't be THIS open-minded.Are All Men Pedophiles? is a new documentary that just appeared on Netflix. I was intrigued by the title—especially since when I was much younger, I was a therapist in private practice that kept getting pedophiles referred to us as patients. Over time, I felt that much of what I was doing by providing outpatient therapy was a huge disservice to the community, as it gave the false promise that psychotherapy could somehow 'cure' these folks. It also gave the false impression that therapy was often preferable to incarceration. So, it's obvious I have my strong opinions about sexual offending and I was very curious to see exactly what this new film was trying to say.Well, what it seems to assert is VERY shocking—and provides ample justification for the sexualization and exploitation of children. Arguments the film gives is that in our historical past men often engaged in sexual behavior with children, that it has an evolutionary basis and that successful models used by the media are often under-aged— so men being attracted to young girls is normal. And this is why they appear to argue that pedophilia isn't really a bad thing. It also uses words like 'always' and 'all'—as if to say every man secretly want to engage in sex with children but this seems very dubious to say the least. But this isn't all. The movie also presents stories of pedophiles and victims—ones that many pedophiles will no doubt find stimulating. The film also does something that is not especially helpful nor is in line with recent research about sexual abuse of children. It tries to differentiate between types of pedophiles—as if some are 'good' and others are 'bad'. In fact, they call some pedophiles 'true pedophiles' and others are apparently NOT. What does this mean? And, why make such distinctions? I sure know that if either of my daughters was molested, I wouldn't wonder if it was a 'true' pedophile!!So is everything about this film awful? No. The film does make a point that television, movies and print media over-sexualize young girls. This cannot be denied. It is also true that ages of consent vary by nation and culture. But to take the leap that sex between teens and adults is somehow acceptable is quite disturbing.So, if I set aside the messages that the film appears to be promoting is it a well made film? I really don't think so. Too many of their points seemed to ignore evidence to the contrary or anyone with a different opinion. While the film appears to be a scientific and educated inquiry, it often uses opinions as facts and constructs bizarre arguments to promote their agenda. It also seems to ignore emotional damage to victims—especially when often it shows victims who seem to have enjoyed this adult-child sexual contact. Why did they make this film and exactly who is its intended audience?! I don't know…I just know it isn't something I would ever consider recommending to anyone. And, I wonder why Netflix chose to include this film in their library as opposed to one that might condemn sexual abuse.